Phrases that you should not say to your partner and thus avoid arguments

The taboo phrases that are toxic to a relationship

Who doesn't want to be like Cameron Diaz and Jude Law in The Holiday ? Almost all mortals … Therefore, if what you want is to live a movie love, the ideal is that you omit the phrases that we suggest below. And, according to a study by the University of Ohio (United States), couples argue over stupid things, which can create irreversible wounds and end in a bigger fight, breakups and even divorces . So let's avoid unnecessary and harmful phrases that would ruin any romantic comedy.

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Surprise: Comparisons are really hateful

Surprise: Comparisons are really obnoxious

Would you like me to compare you with your ex or to refer to him / her constantly? Neither does your partner. That is why you should avoid comparisons. Even if you think this is a simple joke, just mentioning her name will reveal that she has come to mind. Therefore, nothing of "my ex did it like that" or "my ex paid me more attention .

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If you keep it all, then it will be worse

If you are the conciliatory party who always avoids arguing, you have to know that keeping everything to yourself is useless. You have to stop saying "it doesn't matter" when it really does or "it's okay" if it really does. Urging him to forget it and change the subject is not going to fix things, it is going to accumulate them until one day they explode out of control. The same goes for saying "I'm sorry" when you don't really mean it . It is better that you speak like adults and try to reach an agreement, without lies.

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Emotional blackmail? Really?

That "if you loved me you would do it" is emotional blackmail, whatever you say. It is not right to make him think that just to love you he has to do what you say or satisfy you 24/7. If she really loves you, she will do what she thinks is best for you and not what you want her to do.

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Don't try to change him

Save yourself phrases like "Why can't you be like?" , "I wish you were more" or "Why are you always so?" Even if you deny it, that is that there is something inside you that would like to change a thousand things and, before asking the impossible, you already know where the door is.

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No to reckless third degree

Not to the reckless third degree

Sometimes you get the police inspector in you and you want to know where she has been, with whom, what time she arrived and whose last WhatsApp is … And that's not cool at all. Don't even think about asking her to show you her phone because, in addition to being part of her privacy, it shows that you are distrustful and insecure.

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How NOT to start a sentence (ever)

There is a beginning of a sentence that, if used, completely cancels the possible good intentions of the words that follow it and is: "Do not take it the wrong way but …" Once this painful part is pronounced, the rest does not fit to matter at all and trust us, chances are that it DOES take it a tad bad.

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Beware of giving explanations

"Excusatio non petita, accussatio manifes", which comes to warn you not to give more explanations of the account that you are just giving yourself away . If you have not done anything wrong you do not have to justify yourself and if you have done it, it is better to get to the point and stop absurd explanations.

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Don't blame him for your fault

That "If you hadn't done this I wouldn't have done the other" is not worth a penny. Trying to blame the other person for something you've done wrong is twisted, don't do it. Assume that it was your fault, even if it came because of something annoying on their part. If you apologize, he / she will too.

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Stop looking down on yourself!

And if after so much fighting the only thing you can think of is to repent and tell him that "you don't deserve him" or that "it's too much for you", stop. Assert yourself and don't make yourself feel less. This does not reinforce a couple, but rather the opposite. You think it is a compliment to him / her and it is the opposite to yourself.

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It's not a Ryan Gosling movie

Don't be fooled. That Noah and Allie would not stop arguing, after reconciling, after arguing again and then reconcile; it does not exempt them from being a toxic partner. We are sorry to disappoint you after so many years, but a relationship full of arguments is not a healthy relationship. So try to avoid these types of phrases, do not hurt, be honest, show him what you feel and do not go with seconds. It will be a lot better for you.

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Do you know that a very high content of a relationship in ruins is stupid discussions? Exact. According to a study conducted by the University of Ohio, couples tend to argue over stupid things that end in strong fights, breakups, separations and even divorces. And, for the most part, these "stupid discussions" are caused by "stupid phrases" that can be avoided . According to psychologist Julie Hanks, they seem harmless but do more damage than we think. So if you don't want to have to get over a breakup with Flor Ortiz, take good note of this.

Although jealousy and infidelity are toxic components for every couple, there are little things that seem harmless and they are not. These things, sometimes, are just phrases that escape you or that you say without thinking and that carry much worse consequences than you expected.

Phrases that you should not say to your partner and thus avoid arguments

Never compare it with others and much less with your ex.
Avoid emotional blackmail
Don't try to change him . If you don't like it like that, maybe you have the problem.
Do not keep everything with phrases like "nothing happens", because it does happen and he has the right to know so he can give you an explanation.
Don't despise yourself either. Avoid Hollywood phrases like "I don't deserve you" or "I'll never be enough for you."

These and other verbal gaffes, in our gallery. Avoid them all!